It would be unfair to say that when I met the man who later became my husband, he was naïve or innocent but it is true that, sexually, he was not only a lot less experienced than me (I’ve never denied being a slut from an early age) but also less adventurous and bold.
I still remember our first ‘proper’ date when I wore a short, tight white cotton skirt over a black suspender belt, black fully fashioned stockings and high heels. I’m not sure I’d describe the skirt as a mini but it was short enough that I was displaying stocking welts when I was seated, maybe a little flash of thigh when I crossed my legs.
We met for a drink but it was only after a little time had passed and a few drinks had been consumed before he gathered the courage to say something which had been bothering him: did I realise that people could see the suspender belt and stockings beneath my skirt? I remember the surprise on his face when I laughed and told him that of course I did and that this was the point, I wanted them to.
On another occasion he asked if this didn’t worry me, people looking, some probably disapproving or thinking I looked like a tart. But my view was what do I care what some stranger in a bar or on a train thinks, as I’ll never see them again? He later told me that this ‘devil may care’ attitude was one of the things he found most attractive and exciting about me.
We’d been seeing each other most weekends for some months when I first told him that I would like him to ejaculate on my face. He was shocked and said he was uncomfortable doing this as he felt it was degrading for me and I had to tell him that that was a matter for me and ordered him to get his cock out and empty over my glossy, thickly lipsticked red lips. He did as he was told and gave me a very healthy pasting, as back then he was an impressive producer of spunk (sadly, no longer the case).
One Saturday we’d been out drinking and I was feeling as horny as hell when we went back to the flat I was sharing in Putney and as both my flat mates were away that weekend I decided to spice things up a bit. I got some items together – a pair of handcuffs, a scarf to be used as a gag and a riding crop – and I told him I wanted to be cuffed to the bed, gagged and spanked and then hit – but not too hard – with the crop but he just stood there, stunned and after asking some pretty stupid questions (like, have you done this before?) he refused to play along. He told me he just couldn’t bring himself to spank or whip a woman, that he had too much respect for me, he liked me too much. It was very sweet but bloody annoying and I told him if he couldn’t do the things which turned me on most, he could f-off for good and more than that, I’d go back to the pub we’d just come from and find a man who would. That did it and he complied, although I see the irony that in order to get the crop cracking across my backside I had to bully a man as if I was a proper Dominatrix!
It’s strange how variable our memories can be with some things lost in the mist of time while other, often trivial details, even decades later remain pin sharp. I not only remember suggesting we play a game together but I even remember where we were: walking along the Old Brompton Road in South Kensington on a Friday evening, near where he worked at that time. I don’t know why I remember this so clearly, but I do.
The game I suggested I called ‘sleazing’. I was enjoying wearing sexy outfits to work and more daring ones when he and I went out at weekends but I wanted to do more and now I wanted to take things up a gear or two.
The basic idea was that I would wear very tarty outfits – short skirts, seemed stockings, stiletto heels and tops or blouses that showed off my big tits. I suggested that we find the sleaziest pubs in London in which I would display myself, ideally pubs full of men (and indeed we later found some where I was the only woman). Then I would let all of the punters have a good look at me, going up to the bar and bending over, showing my stocking tops, sitting on bar stools with my legs crossed, going to the toilets and removing my bra or wearing a black quarter cup bra under a thin white blouse or tight top.
He liked the idea, in fact he loved it but he did have some perfectly reasonable questions for me about this. For example, he asked how I would react if some of the men in a pub wanted to do more than simply look and came over for a chat or to comment on my outfit or my legs or bust. I told him that I wanted to excite these men so if they wanted to come over and take a closer look or have a little interaction, I was happy for them to do so provided I felt safe and they were polite and I made the point that I had a well-developed ‘nutter alert’ detector and if at any point I felt we’d encountered one, we’d get up and leave, pronto.
He went on to ask what if they wanted more than to look or even chat but might want a feel of my stocking tops or if they tried to follow me into the toilets, something we had already experienced. I had to be honest with him and said I didn’t know how I would react in each case, as it depended on how naughty I was feeling, whether I fancied them, perhaps how much I’d had to drink but, yes, I could envisage occasions when I’d let a guy have a bit of a feel, maybe pop outside for a bit of extra fun.
And so the game began! We hunted for suitable pubs and bars and realized that the ideal were at either end of a spectrum – either really tatty, sleazy, rough places or at the other extreme places like the bars at the Ritz, Café Royale and Clarridges also worked well for a brazen display of sexy outfits. John found a pub in London which was near a major building site and on a Friday night it was packed with builders, scaffolders and he like and that worked well and I often had little groups of men gathered around me, taking a look and seeing how saucy they good be with the chat.
But more often we played the game on Saturday nights. I’d go to the bar and put my handbag down, which necessitated me bending right down so my stockings tops and suspenders were clearly visible. Then I’d have to bend over again to get my purse out and, having paid for our drinks while John enjoyed the view and watched for the reaction of others, for a third time as I replaced my purse and retrieved by bag.
The game developed over time. We found a group of bars in close proximity to one another in Clapham and so we would sometimes go from one to another and of course, after five or six drinks I would get a lot more brazen and had some interesting encounters with various men on these occasions. For a time I had a short black skirt which already showed stocking welts nicely but which also had small short zips at either side and after my first drink or two, I’d unzip these and let the stocking tops and an inch or two of creamy thing show too.

That little black skirt, zips undone
We both found this ‘sleazing’ to be a massive turn on and we would quite often either go to the toilets for a good fucking session or find somewhere outdoors. On one occasion we were in a car park outside a pub and John had me face down over the bonnet of a BMW and was giving me a hard spanking and telling me what a filthy slut I was for parading myself around in the pub like a cheap tart when we heard a cough and a man, stood by the driver’s door holing up his car key said “Can I have my car back, please?”
Even though we both had our own rental places, there was something extra sexy and, yes, extra sleazy about having sex and giving him blow jobs in the pub toilets or in places where we might be “caught” – alley ways, car parks, once on a building site and on one occasion inn the City we noticed that the CCTV camera had swiveled in our direction and we both imagined a previously bored security guard enjoying the view as I demonstrated by fellatio skills.
And – going off topic, slightly – even after we married and had our own house, we carried on with a lot of this. In fact, sometimes on a Saturday night we’d stay in and I’d get into one of my ‘outfits – thigh boots and PVC was a big thing for me at the time, I recall – and have a meal and drinks and then we’d go out for a daring fuck or blow job (or both). There’s a footbridge over the railway line near where we lived at this time and we’d go there and he’d bend me over and take me from behind. On one occasion my climax to exactly coincide with a train passing beneath us and sounding its hooter. John said it was ‘a hooter for a hoor’. That was some climax!
So the sleazing game became a big part of our lives and something we did about once or twice a month either on a Friday night after work, or more often on Saturdays and we enjoyed planning which bars we’d go to and what I might wear. What I was prepared to do was less pre-planned, as it depended on the reaction, how horny and naughty I felt and how much I’d had to drink.
The reaction we – or should I say I – received varied a great deal. This being London a lot of the time, it was sideways glances but heads down and no direct interaction. This reminded me of the comedy sketch in which a couple have sex in a train carriage full of other passengers and no one says a word but when they light a post coital cigarette a suited gent says “Do you mind? This is a non-smoking carriage”. But on other nights I’d be followed to the toilets, chatted to at the bar or sometimes surrounded by groups of men eager to take a closer look and have a bit of dirty chat and maybe even see if there was a chance of a feel or more.
I am the first to acknowledge that some of the outfits I wore were brave to say the least, and looking back I might even say I was almost looking for trouble. I certainly wouldn’t dream of being quite so brazen in public today. Even at work I wore short skirts, seamed or fishnet stockings and high heels (although to be fair to me this was no so exceptional then and many of the girls in our office wore seams and stilettos) and I like to go braless with satin blouses or wear a black, quarter cup bra under tight sweaters or quite thin white blouses. I even wore thigh-length boots for a time, as I loved them as so did many of the boys at work but I was told they were not appropriate for the office so had to stop.
So you can imagine for our sleazing date nights the outfits often went a bit further, as I’d never see the other customers in the places we visited again. Just to take two examples, I wore this skirt and stockings combination when we went for some drinks at the Ritz in London. As you can see the skirt is very short and it also has a small split to reveal my stocking tops even when standing. At the Ritz the polite, generally elderly clientele smiled at me and one or two of the gents clearly enjoyed the view as I sat with my legs crossed but it was all very comfortable, and I enjoyed showing myself off there.

The skirt and contrast seam stockings I wore to the Ritz – not leaving much to the imagination!
It was a slightly different experience when I wore the outfit you see in the photos, below. As you can see I am wearing fully fashioned stockings, a leather miniskirt and thigh length patent high-heeled boots and I’m either braless or wearing a quarter cup bra, I don’t recall which. We went to a riverside pub. I can’t recall how we chose it, other than it was a bit rough, with men fishing on the riverbank and occasionally drinking there too. I wore a long coat, but it was soon off and I was really putting on a display. I knew I probably looked like a prostitute, and I think I’d gone for a sort of ‘hooker’ look that night especially with the miniskirt and boots. The reaction was palpable. As I ordered some drinks at the bar one man turned to me, looked me up and down and asked, “Are you Miss Whiplash?” I said something along the lines of “You’d better believe it” and he said “So it’s not fancy dress then?”


Outside the riverside pub, post coitus
A little group of men, about six or so, gathered around where we were sat on high stools and there was a bit of banter back and forth, much of it directed at John. The guy who had made the Whiplash comment told John he’d better behave or it looked like he’d get a proper thrashing later.
John asked how I felt and whether I fancied taking any of them into the toilets for “a bit of fun” which at that time usually meant me getting down on my knees and giving deep throat. Although I had been feeling turned on before we even stepped in to that pub (just putting on my stockings and boots was enough to get me properly wet and ready for action) and all the attention had heightened by arousal I demurred but I asked how he felt about going outside by the river, bending me over and giving me a good seeing to. I think you’ll not be surprised that he was more than willing as he’d been sat there, hard as rock and his cock dribbling precum for the last hour or so.
When we went outside, I wasn’t surprised, nor particularly worried when about six or eight men followed, as John had told them he was going to fuck me outside if they wanted to watch. As we crossed the road, followed by this group of punters, he turned back to them and told them they could watch but not touch me and asked that they keep their distance a bit and they all did as asked.
John got me bent over and holding my hips and occasionally reaching down to feel my stocking tops and boots he really went for it. As I was so worked up already I came within about two minutes but once I’d recovered some composure I was able to glance to either side and saw a number of them had there cocks out and were wanking. I briefly considered shouting out that they could spunk on my boots but I restrained myself. Given the ‘audience’ participation I found myself building towards a second climax as it is such a turn on to be watched like this but then John bucked behind me and I felt him shooting his load deep within me and I knew that that was it, for now. But it was a long night of fucking and being called a whore when we got back home!
I’ve fixed feelings about that night and some other similar experiences. I don’t feel ashamed – it was fun and exciting at the time and they lit a spark each time in our sex lives which lasted days and weeks as we replayed the scenarios and talked about the ways things might have developed (for example, me offering to suck off every man at the riverside) but I do look back now and ask myself, what was I thinking, walking into a pub dressed like that and provoking men to masturbate. It was probably foolish and risky and I certainly wouldn’t do anything like that today but at the same time, boy, it was FUN!!!




















































